Affair, top secret clearance

I just submitted my sf 86 for my top secret clearance. I’m married and I had an affair with my last boss (also married) from sept of 2018 to dec 2018. I no longer work there and have not spoken to my former boss since I left. My husband knows all about it, as well as both our immediate families and some close friends. The affair is done and since everyone I care about already knows I’m not at risk for blackmail. My husband and I are reconciling and have been in marriage counseling since he found out.

I guess my question is twofold; should I have revealed the affair in the sf 86, and should I reveal the affair during the interview? Obviously if they ask directly I won’t lie about anything but I’m not sure if I’m supposed to volunteer it out of the blue.

If they ask, will they ask about who the affair was with? My former boss has a secret clearance and as far as I know his wife and higher ups at our company are still unaware. I assume he could get in trouble and while again I absolutely will not lie, I’d rather keep all of this in the past where it belongs and not stir up any problems for him if I don’t have to.

ANY advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m not sure what to do. Thanks.

If you are no longer subject to coercion over the affair, it should not be a problem. While not much time has passed, this was a single affair, not a pattern, nothing illegal took place. I am not sure where on the SF86 you would have reported it.

Your former boss on the other hand IS still subject to coercion.

Depends on the state?

I would disagree. While family may know, a new job may not. They could still be pressured to have that information become public and risk getting fired?

In what state is an affair criminal? Yes, there is a sexual harassment issue that is a potential issue for her boss.

It isn’t any business of her new job unless she is doing cleared work for a religious organization.

It has been noticed, that you seem to think that the government requires or expects perfect behavior from cleared personnel. Yet, you see here, everyday, that this simply isn’t the case. Is there an issue there? Most of your posts lately revolve around statements like, “You smoked pot in 10th grade, you don’t deserve a clearance.” I not only find that to be unhelpful but think that it can have a negative impact on new poster or new applicants here. Not that my opinion matters a whit . . .

A quick google search showed 15 or more where it is an issue.

Someone could blackmail her at her new job. Some organizations do not want the drama. That is what i was trying to say.

If someone did that in the 10th grade and I commented on it, I misread the post. Most post about it in college (right before applying), recently or selling the stuff. In my opinion, they don’t need a clearance. I have a right to my opinion. It doesn’t matter anyway, just pay a lawyer and you will be cleared.

@Klh I had that question asked during a poly: whether I ever “broken trust to a significant other”. The explanation to the question was that if you can cheat on your spouse then you can sell your countries’ secrets. Did anybody else have that question asked?

I think that this may be an issue and you should over report. Be honest, own it and show that you have matured and will not do this again. If you can deceive your own partner, then there is an potential to be compromised.

SF-86 does not ask this question, so it doesnt need to be disclosed. As for the interview with background investigator, I doubt that you will be asked about that so I wouldnt recommend you to volunteer this information.

If asked, you should ask the investigator the basis of the specific question since SF-86 doesnt ask this question. Your answer should centered around whether you can be blackmailed or not. Obviously, I would not advise you to be dishonest at the same time, don’t volunteer information that the form didn’t ask.


The only time I have dealt with adultery issues were because of divorce or UCMJ action. If the issue pops up, discuss the issue frankly. If you were not involved in illegal, foreign partner, or high risk sexual behavior, we normally don’t chase it down.

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I agree; it goes to the basic character of the applicant. If people are willing to engage in that type of high-risk, generally unaccepted, and furtive behavior, what else might they do?

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