I’m an undergrad engineering student and I have an internship for summer with a defense contractor. I already obtained my interim/final security clearance and the intership starts in less 3 weeks or so.
The reason why I’m worried is because of a reference. I put my friend(no longer friends) and his address down as one of the reference for verification.
The problem he is upset and thinks I’m emotional.
Long story short, we were in the same programing class last semester. We had to work very hard and we struggled. But I managed to pass the class and he failed. I tried to help him out as much as I could and there were times I got frustrated at him because he didn’t put in any work in order to meet half way. I gave him answers a lot of the times, I also tried to help him understand or try to work on programs together by reading the direction carefully etc. He did not do a very good job at it at all and I got frustrated at him a lot because I would try very hard to read and come up with logical step by step solution, he’d be totally clueless. I’d give him what i came up with, he wouldn’t even be able to understand, nor bother to read the prompt and waste his time and ask “hey how do i do this?” Now he’s upset that he didn’t pass the class, claiming that he would’ve figured things out if I didn’t get frustrated at him when he was clearly lost. I don’t justify about me getting frustrated at him or showing him emotions but sometimes it was like that. Not like I cursed him or used profanities. I got frustrated because he refused to meet half way and wanted me or others to show him everything step by step even when he was given the answers.
He literally told me was “all you did was give me answers” what an ungrateful immature student he is.
I’m worried that he might put an unfavorable view about me and cost my security clearance. But I have no plans on to be on my knees nor plan on trying to convince him for a favorable review. I have no influence on that and that’d be illegal