@Patience see:
I had a misdemeanor that was dismissed will that come up on my fiancé top secret clearance . There was a discussion on how spouse’s activities may impact applicant/holder.
There was also a blog that Marko posted some time ago, in which a clearance holder lost her clearance due to her association (plus among other things). There are other instances.
Bear in mind, that you, as an applicant, bear the burden of showing US Government that the Government can entrust you with national security, which is why SF-86 states that your spouse/cohabitants/etc may be scoped. The issue here, in my opinion, looks like you may be vulnerable to blackmail via your spouse. That is simply my opinion.