I currently have a Top Secret clearance with a Counterintelligence polygraph, was issued confidential clearance through military and am getting a new job where they are upgrading me to an SSBI. I was questioned by OPM in regards to giving them my cooperation in telling my parents about everything about my boyfriend and I. I told them that my parents and I are not close, they are aware of him but do not know full details, seen pictures of us, seen us out together, and everything. I told them that I am uncomfortable with them speaking to my parents right now they are having marriage issues. They told me this puts me at risk for blackmail. A week later the job who hired me stated they are withdrawing my offer because OPM wants to extend my investigation. Every since this had happened my boyfriend and I have been very distant in which we agreed on separating and moving away from one another.
My questions are:
What further extension would OPM be investigating after I told them I am not comfortable with them speaking to my parents? Wouldn't they just deny me and leave it at that?
I am moving back to my parents...If I reapply and OPM starts my investigation will they need to still speak to my parents?
Will this issue appear every time I apply for a new clearance or only with the SSBI?